Help please?

Hubby and I have being married almost 2yrs have 1yr old baby. Dated 1yr before married. We are on the same page on almost everything except one thing MONEY. Well I make 95000 yr he makes 50000 yr. He has a child from previous marriage who doesn’t live with us, who hardly see ‘cause her mom won’t let us long story short he will not take his ex to course for the seek of their kid. Off course we pay child support almost 1200 a mo pluse medical dental etc. She is turning 16 next yr and he wants to buy her a car which I’m all for it but I don’t want him buying her brand new car she wants this PMW and I said no to my husband she could get a used American car that we could offer to pay it cash ‘cause we both have car payment I drive PMW and he has Licn. Help

Help please?
First, an observation. I think you must work for the government or a pharmaceutical company.





A PMW car must be the newest car on the block.





I can't imagine buying an expensive PMW car for a 16 y/o. Young drivers do not have a good reputation on driving cars especially now with cellphone and texting going on. Texting should be banned for drivers period. Cellphone use should be banned for drivers under 21.
Reply:I think that is very reasonable but if he wants to buy her a new one tell him he must pay for anything more than you had expected to pay out of his own money not joint money between you 2.
Reply:I wouldn't buy the expensive cars....I've noticed a lot of new drivers end up wrecking their cars anyway. Growing up my parents had the money to buy me a new car, but in order to teach me responsibility my mom agreed to buy half of a used car, and helped me secure a loan from my bank to pay for the other half. As long as I was doing well in school she helped me with half my insurance....but I was expected to get a job and help out.
Reply:Do you mean BMW? I've never heard of a PMW...


Your spelling and grammar are terrible.


Anyway, your husband should be able to do what he wants for his daughter. You haven't been in their lives very long and as long as he can afford it, he should make that choice.
Reply:What sort of job pays $95,000 a year to someone who can't spell or structure a sentence? I want to work with you!!


Why do people feel that if they pay child support, then all other expenses involved with the child should fall to the custodial parent? Let him buy her the car. Since she can't have her dad in her life full time and she has to live with seeing him raise his "new" family while she is left out, it's the least you can do.
Reply:Where did you learn how to spell? What is a PMW? Anyway, it sounds to me like you guys probably could afford it. It's HIS daughter. I think he can do whatever he wants. Perhaps, you're just jealous. I think that you're forgetting that it's HIS DAUGHTER.. his FLESH and BLOOD. He can still do whatever he wants for her and should be paying mandatory bills because it's his child. You're an idiot.
Reply:How much either one of you make is irrelavant. Tell him this is a perfect teaching oportunity. If he just hands her a car, what kind of responsibility is he teaching her? I have a 16 yr old son. Though a lot of people felt we shouldn't have bought him his first car, my husband thinks it's a fathers right of passage to buy their child there first car. HOWEVER, we DID NOT buy a new one. Although we too could afford it, it was the principal of it. When he can afford a car payment, he can buy his own brand new car. We just bought him somethng nice and reliable.


Tell your husband to grow some balls and stand up to his ex and his daughter
Reply:Make her buy her own car, you get you a new BMW
Reply:She is a very lucky girl to have either one of those cars. Very hard thing to do because your husband probably wants to show his love by buying her this new car due to she hasn't been in his life for awhile. I think a brand new car would be great however is she going to take care of it like she should. Usually when you get something handed down to you that is brand new you tend to take it for granted. I say start off with a used car and if she needs another one then buy her one for graduation that is brand new if you both decide on it or not.
Reply:Kids don't always get what they want or think they need. Talk to your husband and come up with a workable plan where she gets a cool looking car but not one that's going to break you.